How do you define tough love? Where is the line in the sand? I have to admit that I have done a lot for all three of my grown children. My oldest has moved home a couple of times. I continue to pay for all of their cell phones and auto insurance. The boys are still on our health insurance. But I find that it is never enough. We are currently strongly encouraging our oldest to get a place of her own. I was asked tonight for "a little bit of help". When I explained that things were tight she seemed confused. She asked me why. I explained that we had just spent more than we planned to on Christmas and I needed to catch up on our bills. Her comment to that was, "You didn't spend it on me". Really? I sit here wondering why I even try. She makes it seem as though it is my choices that got her where she is. It was I that caused her to live in an uncomfortable apartment. Never mind that her brother is coming up and needs a place to stay for a month or two.
As I try to draw the line in the sand I find that it keeps moving. It is very difficult to tell your daughter that she will have to figure it out. That she will be ok. But she will. Hopefully, she will grow from this. It may take time. I hope she knows that tough love is tough. It is just as hard for me to tell her no as it is for her to hear it. I hope that one day she will understand just how much we love her. Until tomorrow.....
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